Life can be stressful sometimes. Jobs, relationships, finances, children (teenagers!), aging parents, employees … juggling it all can create frustration, emotional upheaval, and stress.
If you have ever wondered if there was a way for you to get more out of your life, work, and relationships, manage your emotions to serve you better, and discover what makes you happiest and most fulfilled, read on.
For over ten years I’ve been helping people and businesses to better communicate with the important people in their lives, turn challenges into assets, and find real meaning in their homes and work lives.
I help people identify undesirable behaviors and develop strategies for change. Learning to identify upsetting feelings and the thoughts that accompany them is a key component in changing these undesirable behaviors. As a result, the actions you take begin to produce more of the results you want - and less of what you don’t want.
Imagine your life and your career the way you know it can be! Picture a goal-directed, value-inspired you - taking charge of your relationships, your career, and your future.
Return to this page and practice these two minute trainings often. You’ll be glad you did!
Create a “Better Feeling” Thought
The thing nobody knew was that his dad had a license to carry a concealed weapon.
My client walked onto the automotive salvage yard and asked a parts puller if he had a part similar to the one he was holding. The man took the part, examined it and said, “I don’t know, let’s ask the boss.”
The mechanic took the part to his boss and asked him to look it up in the computer. It seemed like ages while the boss fiddled around in his on-line inventory. And my client wasn’t the most patient of people.
(Did I tell you that he had already been before a judge for assaulting his own customers in his own parts store? The judge suggested he get some anger management help before he landed himself in jail. Well, he came to my Anger/Emotional Management program several weeks before this incident happened.)
The boss finally gave up his search and said, “No, I don’t have this part,” and began to walk away. My client said, “Hey, wait a minute, you have my part!” The boss said, “No, this is mine, my parts guy just gave it to me.” “I know,” replied my client. “I gave it to him first.”
After calling the parts guy back up to the front and verifying that the part was indeed my client’s, the boss said, “Fine! Here you go!” With that, he threw the part at my client, striking him in the stomach.
Ordinarily, my client would not have suffered these indignities, he would have knocked someone out. In fact, Dad began to reach in his pocket for his gun and my client stayed his hand saying, “No Dad, it’s all right.”
He calmly bent down and retrieved his part, turned and left with his father.
When asked how he made this incredible switch he said, “I just asked myself whether I wanted to spend the day at the police station, or have lunch with my dad.
“I knew this guy wasn’t the source of my success or happiness, and I could always find my part somewhere else. It was a matter of prioritizing my wants and needs, then offering myself a replacement thought.”
He said, “Taking full responsibility for my thoughts, feelings, and behaviors has made all the difference in my business and in my family.”
Ask these questions:
What am I telling myself that’s inviting me to feel this way?
What thought(s) could I substitute that will make me feel better?
Simple? Yes. Easy? Not always. However, with practice and a sincere desire to be fully responsible for your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, this skill will amplify your positive mental attitude and bring you more of what you want in life and less of what you don’t.